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Last evening when picking up the kids, teachers complaint my boy hit someone on the head(again?!!). Teachers said whenever he didn't get things his way, he starts to punch, squeeze, bite, pinch, throw things and talk back to teachers.
'Time out' is useless on him, whenever teacher raise their voices he'll take a chair and sit facing the wall on his own, but repeat the foul behavior soon or later.
Last night I let him starved, no dinner and no milk before bed. He came to me at night and pleaded, " Mama, I'm hungry, give me some food please ?! Pretty please!" .... So cute~! But a big NO from me! I gave him some water and sent him to bed.
If he didn't change, soon we'll need to sign him for anger management!
I have a hard time to get the kids going to school every morning! Not much problem with the boy though... they are now sleeping in their own room now, can't recall since when... perhaps it started after my Taipei holiday.
Every morning, either the boy or the girl will snuggle into my bed. This morning the girl whined a bit, asked her whether was nightmare or any ailment, she just ignore me(as usual, and I don't like that behavior either). The boy normally finished his milk withing a min, the girl prefer to take her sweet time. Then they'll have their 7 Seas Multi-vit. The girl had it for some time already, the boy just started to take it after a few viral infection. I reckon he now knows the downside of rejecting 'protection' from the fish oil/ vitamins, which he did before he got sick that often.
They will have a simple breakfast later, usually biscuit(fast and easy for lazy mama like me). This morning my girl had two cream puffs and the boy insisted of having biscuit. When the boy was done, I got him cleaned up and changed, not a single problem. While the girl still fooling around, blooding on the couch. When I badgered her to get change and keep going, she started to give hell lot of excuses that she was not ready(claimed she hasn't finish her breakfast). The time was ticking, it was almost 8am, and their school starts at 8:15am. So, it seems I was the only one panic and worried for her. Once I open the front door, my boy eagerly dashed out while my girl still slowly munching her 2nd cream puff(sounds like I'm siding my boy?! Not at all, it's the truth after all).
Finally when my girl was done, it already past 8' o clock, that tells why we often late for school. She has no initiative to pick up her own back, let along get it organize the day before school. I seriously feel tired to keep pestering and yelling at her... wonder what's her problem, where did she get the attitude from. I hope she shows some improvement next time when I try to write about her again, sigh~!
Scenario 1:
I bought doughnuts for the girl and boy(one each). My girl finished her share earliest while the boy left it for snack. During the Snack Time, my girl confronted me, she told me her little brother agreed to share his doughnut with her(which he actually didn't). Before my girl can take a bite on the sugar frosting doughnut, my boy approached...
"Why are you eating my doughnut?"
My girl was disappointed, guess the boy feeling sorry for his sister he added, "You eat, but make believe only har!"
Scenario 2:
One night I applied a sheet of facial mask, when they boy saw me he started to giggle. "Do I look funny?" I smiled. He answered right away...
I was taking bath just now, calling umpteen times for the boy to join me but he kept dilly dallying(Probably enjoyed ransacking my stuff). All of a sudden I heard he was crying for help, when I rushed out the privy I found this...
So the second day( Tuesday) was quite a drama!
Right after the teacher brought him into the school compound, he closed the gate and waved me goodbye(and didn't even turn around to check me)! He undid his shoes and without prompting, he washed and dried his hands before entering the classroom. Seeing he was quite comfortable at school, I told the teacher I will pick him up later. I went to Kopitiam for a wholesome breakfast that morning, I suppose it's the 1st decent breakfast without the interruption of my little sprouts(since their deliveries)!
When I came back to fetch him, I found him standing in front of the door. His face was wet with trails of tears. I asked the teacher why was he crying but the teacher just told me he suddenly burst in tears, "probably looking for me?" I inquired and the teacher smiled and nodded. When we were back at home, I personally asked my boy about his crying baby, he uttered, "Teacher angry with me."
Afternoon I got back to school(to fetch my girl), I told the teacher what the boy had told me. Then only she be frank with me, she explained he actually trying to put the material into his mouth(which Juan told me it was dried pasta). The teacher stopped him and he raised his hand to threaten teacher, thus the teacher scolded him. Well I can imagine that...
Day 3...
My boy happily holding hand with his sister all the way to school(Probably didn't bother much by yesterday incident). He mirrored what his sister did, like undoing the shoes, washed hands and pulling a chair and sat by the table. I had a few chat with Teacher Carol about my girl
s reading issue(which I will write in detail in another post). I told the teacher I'll leave him until 9am, then I walked to Teacher Lee's office(The headmistress).
We discussed further about my boy's enrollment in February. The teacher also agreed it'd be more suitable not to enroll him on the school opening day, which she afraid the crying baby kids might influence my boy(I couldn't agree more). After 30% discount for the 1st child, the total enrollment fee will be RM725(Monthly RM300, Term RM150, Material RM80, Uniform RM95, AIA RM20, Concert RM80).
Well, it's literately going to school. I have signed up my girl for a week of 'holiday programme' in her Montessori. It wasn't much of a holiday camp, she was just joining the other daycare kids in the daycare(for one whole morning session, from 8am-12n).
So, since the school headmistress didn't mind my boy joining her sister in the school, as by the mean of get a custom to the school environment. So,I brought the boy to his jie jie's Montessori, joining other kids and school activity... alright, I won't call it a day, he was there not even for more than an hour.
Let's recite what happened on the 1st day(which was yesterday). This boy has no problem mingle with other kids, he even washed his hand and dried it before went to into the classroom. He happily playing dinosaur with Hao Hin and a Malay boy. When the Malay boy tried to take his Dino, as usual he fought for it and fenced himself. To be frank, I'm quite proud of him since he knows how to stand on his ground and protect himself(though it's wrong to get violent and quarrel with others).
When the other kids were out for the outdoor activity, he was too engrossed with his own material(A set of marine animals). Still after persuaded by teachers, he cleaned up his material and join the others. At the front yard, he initiated holding hands with other boys when teacher gave commands(we were surprised). He joined them for some warm up exercise then started to look for me. Later he started to play on his own(at the caterpillar tunnel), which Teacher Lee said it's quite normal for kids at 2 to be solitude. At 4 they well learn grouping and teamwork and 6 will know certain game and rules.
Recently the terrible 2 whines a lot, especially after I stop breastfeeding him. Now he is pestering me to let him play the jigsaw puzzles(I kept in a box right on top the bookshelf), with his puppy face and 2 rows of tears and mucus running from his nostrils... am I giving in?!! Of course NOT! I know he will stop this hell noisy bugging after I ignore him for a while... right now(realising his trick or perhaps sandiwara(drama) didn't work on me, he is now messing upconcentrating on the flags I gave him).
These few days he shows some improvement at night, in which he no longer wet the hammock or mattress. Most important when I woke him up for pee wee, he no longer make a fuss like before! Hurray!
His speech is developing well(indeed very well), still gibberish but the family members are now able to catch up with what he said. At the age of 2, he is able to talk in complete sentence with proper grammar(most of the time). He sang too, quite a number of songs... sluggishly but the tune and melody are there! Kudos my child!
His attention span for books has improved too, now he is able to listen to a whole story book of 32 pages without distracted... so far. He is quite good at filling up the blank for his favourite story book too, for instance, Chugga Chugga Choo Choo, Upsy Down Town and other Monster story.
My boy X(20 months old) has finally potty trained... alright exempt at night whereby I still insist to put him on diaper, he was rather reluctant though but I can't take the risk he might wet the bed! Ok... frankly, in the other hand I didn't want to waste those expensive diapers(4 packs of Mami Poko and 3 packs of Huggies Dry Comfort) I bought during sales(head knock on the wall)!!!
How did I potty trained him? Neah... unlike J the 1st child, I didn't put much efforts on potty train. During J's time I scheduled myself to force put her on potty every 1/2 to 1 hour, I reckon that was tiring especially for lazy mom like me! As for X, it was a bliss for me since he was those Monkey see monkey do type of child. The credit goes to his Jie Jie, who constantly showed good example of wee and poo routine.
These days whenever he has the urge to wee or poo, he will either hold his crotch or just inform me or other family member that he need to go to toilet(how sweet)! Quite a surprise to me, as he will show the sign or tell us his urge regardless of venue or the person to inform(anyone available will be fine to him). Unlike his Jie Jie or paternal side cousin, in which at the initial stage of potty training, they refused to cooperate when they were out of their comfort zone and they even have their selected personnel to assist them in toileting(rolled eyes)! My girl preferred me or MIL to help her with the holy job, if we were not around, she would rather wee in her pants(slapped forehead)!
Yesterday night, I was so proud of my boy! Although he was on diaper, he still woke up in the middle of the night and bugged me to help him to wee, how smart! I remember vividly, (not trying to compared) my girl at 2 years plus still needed me to wake her up every night and remind her to pee, if I failed to do so(sometimes I can't help it since my eyes refused to open, chuckled) she will certainly wet the mattress... (sigh)!
So, jotting down my boy's potty training milestone and again, I'm proud of you my boy!
Monday, 9th of May, right after I fetched J and just about to leave her Montessori, Teacher Pathma rushed from the other building(There were 2 Montessori building opposites to each other) and stopped me. I got startled then she explained, J refused to do some letters writing which seems to be part of the practice for next week assessment. According to Teacher Pathma, J claimed that I already revise with her at home and she was positive that she doesn't need to revise anymore (slapped forehead)!
I was puzzled and stared at my girl, I felt sorry for her as her happiness(she never fail to hug a lovely smiling face whenever I fetch her) vanished the second her teacher complained about her, she was down... then I looked up at the teacher, " What can I do then?" Teacher Pathma gave me a smile and she didn't reply!
I'm not sure what have gone wrong ... but it seems my method(revising at home with her school syllabus) just didn't work with my girl, I'm really worry now, especially for next week assessment! I'm not afraid she doesn't do well, but there is a big chance that she might pass up a blank paper then get negative response from her teacher, which stands a potential to alleviate her self-esteem!
This is something I received from my girl( 3 years 8 months old) for this Mother's day(8ve of May), it's a paper plate letter box. With a little help and touch from her teacher(apparently the colouring part and the stapler), she pasted the hearts and word on the craft!
Once she reached home on Friday(she handed me this 2 days earlier), she eagerly explained and showed her masterpiece to me. On top of that she sang me the "Mommy and Daddy I love You" song, how sweet~! Love you too, my sweetie pie!
Just now when I was blogging X's potty train milestone, he fretted and kept pointing the packet of chocolate I placed on the shelf. Since his lips were red (sign of heatiness), I didn't allow him to have any of it but I did console him by giving him Cocoon jelly instead.
After he finished 1, he requested for another, I complied since the portion wasn't that much(approximately 10g per jelly cup). He finished it too in a split second and wanted for more, I stared at him and said sternly, " You already have 2!"
To my surprise he replied, " *Ai three!"
*Ai= Want in Hainanese
Yesterday marked the 1st time X(19 months old) went napkin-less! Yes, I only put him on diaper at night or during family outing, other time he will be wearing napkins.
Yesterday morning after a nice warm bath, he requested to put him on a bear printed pants. I warned him, if I put that for him he will have to inform me anytime when he feel like peeing. True enough, yesterday was the 1st time he didn't urinate in his pants(he did wet his pants during some uncontrolled water play in the bath room). From time to time he will tell me his urge for peeing and he even successfully pooped in the potty, though some might be faked alarm!
Today, he still insisted to wear pants. He did peed in his pants this morning, but that was in the playground when he got too engrossed into exploring the field. When the time he told me, he already incompetently peed in his pants.
Anyway, I must admit he did a great job in initiating potty training, proud of him!
Oh Noooooo! This afternoon when I drove to fetch J from her Montessori, her teacher caught up with me and complaint about her again! She told me J was 'naughty' (right in front of her), my girl was staring blankly, looked unhappy since her teacher betrayed her. Her teacher actually told me J didn't want teacher complain anything about her to me... sigh~!
Again, her teacher has high hopes on her, and she wishes J will behave in class and stop being influenced by other children who were more active and playful! Along the way back I just kept quiet, she prompted me to talk by distracting me with other subject, but I ended up warning her again, " You are not going any where(outing) if I heard your teacher complain about you again!"
I'll have to observe how she would behave after the 'lecture', hopefully the situation can improve... end of story(for now)!
Instead of taking commands, X(19 months old) actually likes to instruct and give orders!
Yesterday morning X patted his diaper, looked at me while bugging me, "Mama, change!" pointing at his diaper, he repeated the same sentences until I grabbed a napkin and changed his soiled diaper! Just now in the Kopitiam, when I brought him to have lunch he kept pointing at the pau steamer and pestered me to buy a pau for him. Since I didn't buy any pau for them for quite some time, I just got him one char siew pao. Without guidance, he peeled the paper off the pau and slowly munching and nibbling on the filling, when it's time to fetch his sister, I found he finished the char siew(braised pork) filling and left some of skin untouched(sigh~! What a picky eater)!
This morning, he kept bugging me to give him spirulina tablet, he insisted to wear shirts with bear or ducks printed on it, he handed me a box and ask me, " Mama, open!"... well, congratulation to him for knowing what he wants but frankly, it's kind of bothersome too... *bitter smile!
At 19 months old, he is learning to count from 1- 10. When we say 1, he will recite 2; if we said 3, he will reply 4; the numbers go on till number 10(although the number 6,7 and 8 sound sluggish)!
I never thought X(19 months old) would be so eager to attend school, not until this morning!
All this while I pushed him in a stroller while walked his sister to kindie, but since now he is old enough to walk on his own without straying away (I reckon), I dared myself to try holding his hand and allow him to walk on his own!
He was rather submissive along our way to J's kindie. Upon reaching, coincidentally J's teacher wanted me to sign a document and I had to let go of X's hand. In a split second, this little boy of mine rushing into the kindie compound, straight away invading entering the classroom! He didn't even bother whether I was tailing him nor the presence of other strangers (teachers)... (rolled eyes)!
The teachers were giggling and chuckling when X complied of what they asked, to take off his shoes and wash his hands before entering the class(he actually queuing behind his sister in order to wait for his turn to wash hands)! However it was getting late for class, the teachers tried to sweet talk him back to me but he refused and struggled by flinching their hand away, he left the teacher no choice but to carry him to me, muahahahaha!
I can see through his face, he was rather upset that he couldn't join his sister at school. However I have tried to inquire J's headmistress about sending X to her school by next year, indirectly she rejected X's enrollment. She explained they are having more children compared to before(when J's time), they'll only take those children who will be 3 years old or older. What a pity!
It's our daily sleep routine that J will give me a peck on my mouth before she sets off to her slumber land. Just now right before she went to bed, she gave me warm and slimy kisses as usual. Since her father(TK) was lying by her side, I prompted her to give him a kiss as well.
But since her father has a bad breath(due to gastritis), she seems reluctant to do so. To my surprise she gave another incredible excuse instantaneously, she answered nonchalantly, " I don't want, papa's face is OILY lar!"
Immediately TK frowned and muttered, " You don't like papa?" She paused for awhile and replied, " No lar, I'll give you a hug, A HUG IS BETTER!" Seriously, I don't think my rusty brain can twist and turn so fast... and certainly not at her age!!!
My boy X is a 18 months old energetic monkey bunny, but he is one little gentleman that really makes me proud of him!
At time he can be very playful and naughty. There were a few times he hurt me (unintentionally) when he started to play rough, he then open his mouth to kiss me and cuddle me while uttered, " (s)orry mama, (s)ayang mama!" before he started to stroke my face... how sweet!
Last Saturday when we stopped by MIL's house, while he tried to ride on a toy cart, which belongs to his older cousin(a 3 years old single child), his cousin started to fret and whine. Obviously his cousin didn't want to share the cart with my poor little boy. Whilst FIL trying to sweet talk this bossy cousin, I turned to my boy and asked, " Would you mind to let kor kor (refer to his cousin) take the ride 1st?" He immediately got down from the toy cart and pushed it to his cousin and patted on the seat, signing him to sit on it!
Later when his cousin bothered FIL and bugged FIL to bring him up stair by yelling, " Ai phone!"(actually it was 'ai room', which means want to go to the bedroom) anyway X mistakenly heard it was "Phone" and hurriedly handed the toy mobile he was playing to his cousin and said, "Take!" Such a sweet pie~!
I'm so happy today! Again my girl J showed me another new achievement, after struggling and practicing her numbers for umpteen times, she can now write from number 1- 4 without guidance!!! Yahoo! I reckon she did a great job especially for number '3', which she struggled and being restless when practicing it week ago( I blogged over here)!
J's "1, 2 ,3 , 4"!
