My Parentology Lab

This afternoon after J woke up from her nap, we had a decent chat. She told me the terrible incident she experienced yesterday evening, when TK caned and threatened her after she chucked a pillow on his laptop, below was what J recited to me...

"Yesterday mama got angry with papa and scolded him, 'THAT ENOUGH'! Mama said. Papa got angry with Ji Be De and said 'SHE IS NOT YOUR DAUGHTER', Ji Be De was angry too! Ah Gong was yelling and Ah Po was sad... I must say sorry to papa..."

After listened to how she feel, I gently stroked her hair and didn't know what else I could tell her beside my usual quote, "Papa loves you, just he doesn't know how to talk to you!" before I gave her a hug and she hugged back tightly.

p/s: In order to nurture a child, LISTEN and PATIENCE are part of the virtues!

Friday, 21 May

I bought fried rice noodle and 'lontong' for lunch today. Y seems not intrigued by the Malay food at all, she refused to take her lunch again! Whilst I was busy spooning the food feeding myself and X, she kept dilly dally dislodging the playmat, poking the curry gravy( which's packed in a plastic bag), asking for pee and the next second wanted to poop, She constantly finding excuses to spare her from having a proper meal. I warned her if she didn't take her food, I'll go upstair without her and she has to sleep alone, 'downstair'! After the 'threatening', she managed to scoop a piece or two of 'nasi himpit' into her mouth.

However, it didn't take her long to 'slumbering' again. I pestered her to take her food, but she asked me to feed her instead, I fed her with a spoonful then I told her I have other chores to deal with. That time, I had done with feeding X and busy collecting the dried clothing at the frontyard, pathetically she asked for pooping again and I asked her to settle herself. When I stepped into the house, I found she spilled her urine all over the kitchen's doorway. I presumed she did it unintentionally when she tried to lift the potty to the living room. I was a bit sulky when I cleaned the soiled floor, whimpering that I was tired cleaning after her mess. I told her that I was angry with her, before I could continued she bellowed, " after mama died, papa will come to me!" she said that highly likely because I used to tell her that if she stayed stubborn and don't listen to me, I'll probably die before she grows up. After she had done with her 'business', I washed her potty while she was still 'hu ha' around the house showing no intention of taking her lunch. She kept saying 'NO!' when I prompted her to take her lunch.

I had enough with my patience, hence I dragged her into the 'unoccupied room' and closed the door, she cried fretfully while pounding the wooden door. At the mean time, she gagged and begged me to let her out. I continued hanging my other batch of laundry, held my heart tight for punishing my beloved child. At the same time, X got startled with my action and cried like his 'jie jie'. I kept Y in the room(without locking) for a few seconds, then I opened the door, warned her to sit on her chair and take her food. She went to the living room crying heartily while clunching on the floor, refused to take her food. I put her on the chair and asked her to take her food, else I'll put her back in the room. When I came back to her, she was holding a few leaves of vege in her hand whilst most dishes was scattered on the floor. I hold my breath, praised her for taking her food. But eventually, she only ate a quarter of her food and left the rest untouched for 'Collie', our pet dog.